
That's what I was singing the
entire time I was sewing my wedding dress, having learned that the fabric is called shantung. To the tune of
"Everybody Have Fun Tonight" by Wang Chung. Because, yes, I am that kind of a dork. Seriously.
I've promised a comprehensive post on the dress, but really, I'm not sure how comprehensive I can get, since I did the whole thing ass-backwards, and without any notes or progress photos. It was what you would call an "organic process", "organic" here meaning, "I have no idea what I'm doing until after I've done it."
When I started, I had a pattern in hand, but, as is often the case, the pattern was completely unsuitable for my body type. Tulip skirt and sweetheart neckline? Not remotely flattering on me. I have pretty much no waist, and I'm not all that well-endowed in the bust area, either. So I scrapped that pattern and started to think about all my favourite articles of clothing, the ones that make me feel like a million bucks. And most of them have ruched bodices. Makes sense: when you have no waist, ruching can help you fake it. Well, ruching and some highly supportive undergarments. I opted for both. And as for the bust area, my favourite tops are all ones with Grecian-style necklines. Again, I needed a little support here, but between the padded, underwired, stick-on strapless "hoverbra" and the gathered, deep-V neckline, I managed to create the illusion of cleavage. But it is an illusion, I assure you.
The first thing I did was make the circle skirt. This part was all about math. Based on the width of my fabric, I determined that I would need six panels in order to make a circle. So I laid my fabric out on the floor, got a protractor, some pins, and a length of string and made six triangle-shaped panels. I decided that it would be easier to make the circle first and cut the waist out of the middle, rather than try to measure out the waist ahead of time. I know, bad drafting, but that's how I did it. I sewed my six panels together, leaving one partially open for a zipper, and then I measured my waist and cut appropriately.

I used French seams so that it would look nice and tidy. Shantung is rather shreddy, but it's really lovely to work with. The slubbiness means that the fabric kind of sticks to itself, so you don't have to go overboard with your pins.
After the skirt was done - oh, and I cut it extra long and then trimmed it to the right length once I could try it on with the petticoat - I attached the bodice lining. I did a lining and then the ruched layer on top. I used the same material for the lining as for the rest of the dress. This is the one bit of the original pattern that I decided to hang on to, because it actually fit quite nicely. So I attached that part to the skirt, with the seams pressed nicely and facing the outside, so that when it was all put together, I wouldn't have raw edges on the inside. Does this make sense? I also cut the bodice a little tall because I knew that I would be trying it on a hundred times before I got to the point of finishing that bit, and I knew it would shred a bit.
Okay, so I made the skirt and the inner layer of the bodice, and then I put in the zipper. I had never put in a zipper before, and I didn't want to mess it up, so I stitched it in by hand. Because I am a little less than brilliant sometimes, I bought a zipper that was just a wee bit too short, so I really have to shimmy to get in and out of the thing. But it worked out nicely.
Once the zipper was in, I started on the bust. This was by far the fiddliest part of the process, and if anyone with any sewing experience were to take a close look at it, they would have a great laugh, I'm sure. I measured and cut and pinned and stitched and ripped and resewed and added darts all over the place until I was more or less happy. And that was just the front. Same process for the back, only minus the darts and gathers, so it was slightly less forgiving, and is, in fact, slightly askew.

Finally, after all that, I did the ruched layer of the bodice, which was much easier than I had anticipated. It meant re-sewing the zipper (in order to attach the ruched layer over top), this time on the machine, but I mustered my courage, snapped on the zipper foot, and made the thing happen. It worked fine. The ruching was comedically poofy at first, but after a pressing it looked pretty sweet.
The hem is also on the comedic side - somehow I managed to cut it about three inches too long in the back, and a bit too short in the front. So it's kind of a mess. But you can't really tell by looking: the fabric is forgiving enough, and the swingy circle skirt, on top of the petticoat, has enough dips and ripples that the wonky bits are more or less disguised.
Which brings me to my major point in all this: for all that a wedding dress is special and magical, it only has to hold up for one day. This is not a hard-working garment we're talking about. You put it on for a few hours, you look like a princess, and then it spends the rest of its days in a closet, unless someone else wears it for a few hours, twenty-five years later. It's really just a step up from a Hallowe'en costume in terms of how much wear it's going to get. So if the hem is a little uneven, what's the big deal? None of my wedding guests asked to inspect my seams or my darts. They don't know that I had to use three different kinds of seam binding, none of which really matched my fabric, because I kept running out. They don't know that I messed up the straps and ended up taping them to my shoulders. And if they had known, they wouldn't have cared.
All this to say that if you find yourself getting married, and you want to make your own dress, don't let anyone dissuade you. Let me give you these few hints, based on my experience:
- If you can get lots of extra material, do. You won't be so nervous about cutting into it if you have plenty to spare.
- Know what your skill level is. This dress was pretty simple, with no boning or piping or any of that complicated stuff, and the gathers and ruching covered up a number of errors. Anything more complicated than that, and I would have thrown the whole thing out the window.
- Measure yourself like mad, and be honest about the numbers.
- Choose a forgiving, easy-to-work-with fabric, and a design that suits your shape and style, otherwise you're bound to be disappointed with whatever you make.
- Give yourself plenty of time and, if you have children to wrangle, make sure there's someone else there to do the wrangling.
- Remember that the day is not about the dress. If you think your wedding is going to be ruined if you don't get your dress just right, then take a deep breath, run yourself a bath, and repeat, "I am in love, and I would marry this person in a feed sack," until you feel your priorities returning to normal.
- Choose a cheesy 1980s pop song for your theme, and sing it endlessly. It's virtually impossible to get stressed out while the dulcet strains of Wang Chung are echoing through your head.

So there you go: that's all I know about making a wedding dress, based on the one time I did it. I'm still super happy with the way it turned out, even though, it's true, I would have married Hubby C in a feed sack. I'm glad there's a more stylish alternative to the feed sack, I'll admit. Now Miss B insists that she wants it when she someday gets married, but a lot can happen to your taste between grade one and marriage, so I'm not holding my breath. I have a fantasy that maybe some day a young woman not unlike myself will come across this very dress in a thrift store and take it home, planning to refashion it into a wedding dress for herself, and that she'll have a good laugh at my uneven hem and my inexplicable armscyes (are they still armscyes if you don't have sleeves?) and all the other little weirdnesses hidden in the seams.
Either that, or I'll be buried in it. I haven't decided yet.